“Father of the fatherless and protector of widows is God in his holy habitation.”
It’s difficult to read this verse without the initial pin prick of the word fatherless. When it’s said, I sometimes feel like it’s a defect or condition, and many times, even a handicap. Being marked as fatherless, whether through loss, abandonment or an unknown reason can make you feel like an outcast. Somehow, missing out on this seemingly everyday part of life. The greatest part about all of this is that it couldn’t be farther from the truth.
“Fatherless” is one of the few distinctions in the Bible that God made to describe those he is nearest to. The “widow” is another. God’s word is filled with examples of Him proclaiming the special place in his heart for fatherless children, and how He will personally fight for them. It took so long for me to realize that not having a father did not make me an outcast, but made me a dweller of one of the most exclusive places in God’s heart.
It definitely wasn’t easy to learn this truth at first because I had no experience with what having a father was even meant to feel like . . .
A year after I was born, I lost my dad along with any chance of knowing what a “normal” life was like. I asked God “why” many times, trying to understand the reason I have had to live with this defect, but as I kept maturing and seeking Him, God was showing me something that would mean more to me than any earthly father God could have left on earth for me. He was showing me, and still is, what it means to have one, perfect Heavenly Father.
What God has graciously helped me to understand about not having a dad is that He is the best dad I could ever hope for. He knows every single thing about me: what I do or don’t like, my pain, what makes me laugh, and the deepest parts of me that no earthly person could ever understand. I can’t explain to a human the nights where I lay in bed and feel like my covers are His arms around me; or the extreme closeness to a Heavenly Father who doesn’t even need me to say words to know how I feel.
- No earthly father would ever be able to reveal to me the precious secrets of divine love like my Heavenly Father could.
- No human is able to show me the treasures of life hidden in the pages of the Bible like my Heavenly Father can when I’m desperate for truth.
The love of God is where all other earthly dads even begin to get an idea of what being a father is. So, if for some reason you find yourself fatherless in this world and the next time YOU feel as if being without a dad makes you an outcast, REMEMBER that it was God who created fatherhood; and he gets to show us what having the best father in the universe feels like.
“The child asks of the Father whom he knows. Thus, the essence of Christian prayer is not general adoration, but definite, concrete petition. The right way to approach God is to stretch out our hands and ask of One who we know has the heart of a Father.”